Pregnancy and Intimacy        

Pregnancy brings on physical changes and your mood.  Your belly has started to grow and there may be other physical and emotional changes you did not anticipate.  During pregnancy it may be easy to get caught up in negatives about the changes that you see happening to your body. So you may not be feeling very sexy; some women feel awkward or worry about their partner touching them in intimate ways.

Every woman’s experiences are different while pregnant. For some women sexual desire fades while for other women pregnancy may help them feel more connected to their sexuality.  During pregnancy it is normal for sexual desire to come and go as your body goes through changes.  If you are finding it difficult to feel sexy or your fears and concerns are getting in the way of intimacy, talk to your partner about how you are feeling.  Try cuddling, kissing, body massages, or other intimate activities which can help you feel sexy and get the heat going.

Sex is a natural, normal part of pregnancy if you are having a normal pregnancy.  Penetration and intercourse activity will not hurt the baby, who is protected by your abdomen and the uterus’ muscular walls.  Your baby is cushioned by the amniotic sac’s fluid.  The mucus plug, which closes off the opening of your cervix, also helps to keep your baby protected.  Contractions of orgasm are not the same as labor contractions and will not hurt your baby.

There are benefits to making love while you are pregnant.  Orgasms help to exercise and strengthen the wall of your uterus and your pelvic floor.   You may discover that you may climax more often and even experience multiple orgasms for the first time.  Sex and orgasms can boost your immunity; promote sleep; burn calories and release endorphin’s and oxytocin which helps both you and your baby. Of course your partner also benefits from making love too!

Depending on how far along you are in your pregnancy you may need to play with positions, especially later in your pregnancy, to find a position that is both stimulating for you and comfortable.  Avoid positions where you are on your back after the fourth month as the weight of your growing baby could block blood vessels that supply blood to your uterus and legs.  Try straddling, spooning or lying sideways.  As your pregnancy advances, sex can help you get ready for labor and delivery (assuming you don’t have a history of premature labor), remember orgasms help to exercise your pelvic floor muscles.

If you are experiencing a high risk pregnancy or facing certain pregnancy complications, you may be told “no sex” which may include anything that involves orgasm or sexual arousal, not just intercourse.  These complications may include risk of miscarriage, risk for preterm labor, or your placenta may be too low in the uterus (placenta previa).

One important note: if you’re not absolutely sure about your partner’s sexual history, use condoms.  Pregnancy does not protect against sexually transmitted infections, such as HIV, herpes, genital warts or chlamydia and those infections can affect your baby.


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